About Me

I am a writer, speaker and consultant helping people and organizations cultivate the trust they

need to do the work they love. I love being a husband and dad. I can easily get lost writing

songs or making cool things out of old instruments. I want to be more like Jesus and MacGyver.

If you want to increase your influence, you don’t need more creativity. You don’t need better ideas. You don’t need more time to pursue those ideas. What you need first is trust. I want to help you cultivate the trust you need to do the work you love.

Recent Posts

7 Reasons Every Leader Needs To Start Calling People To Maturity

7 Reasons Every Leader Needs To Start Calling People To Maturity

Maturity is not inevitable. As a leader you have to call it out in others. You and I both know people who seem to never grow up. We work with them and live with them. Immaturity is a huge problem in relationships of every kind, but we can’t accept this as an unavoidable roadblock. As a leader, you need to discover the power of calling people to maturity.   Why You Should Start Calling People To Maturity:   1. Immaturity has a high price tag. Immaturity wreaking havoc in your team. Don’t turn a blind eye away from it any longer. Not to mention it is wreaking havoc in their lives too.   2. If you love people, you have to call them to maturity. If you have convinced yourself to avoid confrontation because you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings, don’t deceive yourself any longer. By not courageously and humbly calling people to maturity, you are punching their future in the face. You are a leader. Do the hard thing. If you can’t, your own leadership integrity will begin to erode. One of the greatest expressions of love is courageously calling people to maturity. One of the greatest expressions of hate is to let someone wallow in their own immaturity.   One of the greatest expressions of love is to courageously call people to maturity.Click To Tweet   3. Some people have never been called to maturity. It may be hard to believe, but that fifty year old team member of yours may have never been challenged to grow and mature in a particular area. No one has taken the time to intentionally invest in...
Your Cheap Talk Is Costing You More Than You Think

Your Cheap Talk Is Costing You More Than You Think

We all want others to listen and trust us when we speak, but still cheap talk is all around us. What is cheap talk? It’s simply words without action. Stated intention without follow-through.   In my new book Mastering The Art Of Trust, I list the top 10 Trust-Builders and top 10 Trust-Breakers. The one I struggle with the most is probably Cheap Talk. Even with the greatest intentions, I can fail to act upon my spoken commitments. It is something that I constantly work to improve. Nothing erodes trust more consistently than cheap talk. This is why you and I must commit to eradicate it from our lives. We work so hard to gain trust and influence, but missing this will sabotage all those efforts.   Nothing erodes trust more than cheap talk.Click To Tweet Here are Three Simple Methods For Avoiding Cheap Talk 1. Write Down Your Commitments This is less about writing down tasks and more about recording your commitments. Find one place that you do this and stick to it. I use an app called Wunderlist for Mac because it is already my task management app and it syncs across all my devices. 2. Do It Fast Don’t wait to write it down. If you’re anything like me, you can trust yourself to forget it every time. That’s too stressful. Write it down immediately as it comes out of your mouth. Even if you are in a conversation, pull out your phone or carry a little notebook. People won’t mind if you say something like, “I’m not checking texts, I’m writing this down right now so I...
The Real Danger of A Half-Hearted Effort

The Real Danger of A Half-Hearted Effort

My son played kickball for the first time recently. He inspired me to,   1. play more kickball. 2. hold nothing back.   He waited patiently for his first time to kick and then… he busted it.   And by “busted it” I don’t mean the ball. He missed the ball completely and, with both feet straight in the air, fell flat on his back.   He gave it his all! How do I know? You can’t get that kind of air unless you go for it with abandon.   Unshaken, he got back up and barely made contact with the next ball, falling again.   The third ball came and he made decent contact and got on base via a fielding error.   Quit Holding Back After seeing that, my mind raced over all of the opportunities I had half-heartedly swung at over the years. I lived with the belief that if I put in just enough effort, there was less potential for catastrophic failure.   This is true, but this approach also guarantees zero opportunity for accomplishing something truly extraordinary.   In reality I was just scared of being embarrassed, ridiculed or labeled a failure.   I realized this: It is disgraceful to give a half-hearted effort to something that really matters.   You and I have extremely significant contributions to make in the world around us and we have been given the potential to see it come to pass.   Stop taking half-hearted kicks at this one wild and precious life you have been given! Believe the impossible. Do the right thing that is the hard thing. When you...

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